Fertility Coaching – Mummies in Waiting, Learn to Mother Yourself First

Here at Fertility Help Hub we’ve been feeling anxious, like you. Together we are entering very uncertain, unsettling and unfair times, as this pandemic continues and we’re having to social distance from loved ones. If you are feeling rather lost, please remember you are not alone, imagine us all uniting together as you read today’s content. 2020 is going to be a challenging year for those trying to conceive or even if you are in the 2WW (two week-wait), given the current Covid-19 health pandemic. We’re all seeing fertility treatments and cycles being postponed and or cancelled and it feels unfair and heart-breaking. You’ve waited a long time for this, everything is riding on this and it’s swept from under the rug. So that is why, now more than ever we need to lean on each other in a difficult time. With that, we have the pleasure of introducing the empathetic and wise Intuitive Fertility Coach, Joanne who gives us wise coping strategies and more.

Over to Joanne…

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Hello Mummy-to-be,

I’m Joanne, an Intuitive Fertility Coach and I’d like to ask you all a question.

What would you say, or do, if your future child became upset because he or she was struggling?

I’m guessing that you’d be kind. Perhaps you’d pick up him or her and give plenty of kisses and cuddles, whilst explaining it’s ok to get frustrated.

Am I right?

Well, whatever your answer, I feel sure it would have been delivered with love. Now I would like you to apply this love to yourself, especially if you are finding today challenging (it’s Mother’s Day here in the UK). You can either wrap your arms around your shoulders and give yourself a squeeze, or find a cushion, or a cuddly toy. Close your eyes and simply enjoy being held, comforted. Then whisper reassuring words to yourself such as: “I am where I am, and all will be ok.”

I call this simple act: ‘mothering yourself’. It’s about being gentle and tender to your soul. When we hold something close to our heart, it calms the vagus nerve, which in turn relaxes the breath and body. By gently repeating a positive mantra, we quieten the chatter of the ego, our fear-based mind and we regain a sense of calm. Go on, give it a go.

Now, let’s look at other ways you can ‘mother yourself’, because that one only cares for the mental and emotional body. But we have many bodies, our physical body is next. Gently place your hands on your womb. How we touch our body demonstrates that we honour and understand all that it does for us. When done with loving intention, it can be another act of ‘mothering your-self’.

Last year, I introduced Intuitive Womb Massage into my offering. Why? Because I remember my own dislike for my womb when trying to conceive. Doctors told me that I was heading towards an early menopause and gave me just a 5% chance of conceiving naturally. Years of negative results had created dis-ease within my body. I felt utterly let down by my womb. The last thing I wanted to do was love it, but that’s exactly what my body craved.

I now support mummies-to-be who also have the same anger and dis-ease towards their womb. That’s why my Intuitive Womb Massage sessions (here in Sevenoaks, Kent) give them a chance to reconnect and become friends again. But don’t worry, if you’re unable to travel here, I’m happy to teach massage techniques remotely. Our womb holds such innate wisdom, it’s vital we reconnect and find out it’s deepest desires.

Finally, let’s look at two bodies I am very passionate about – our spiritual and energy bodies. Despite being told endless bad news when trying to conceive, I kept receiving visions of us having a little boy. At first I quickly dismissed them. That was until I booked a session with an Intuitive Healer, whom I later went on to train with. She invited me to reveal my buried fears, and it turned out there were a lot! Then together we tuned into the energy that surrounded me – my energy and spiritual body.

There, sitting in a green ball of pulsing light on my right shoulder, was my baby. I couldn’t believe it. Tears ran down my cheeks. “Is he a boy?” I asked tentatively, thinking she might think I was crazy for sharing such knowledge. “Yes” she said!

She explained that the visions and feelings I had been experiencing were of my baby in spiritual form, also known as a spirit baby. From that day on I decided to believe in him and spoke to him daily. A spirit baby has an energetic soul just like you and me. They can hang around its mother and father for months, or even years, before choosing to leave the comfort of their spiritual world. Such babies are keen communicators as long as we are open to receiving their message. Communication can come through as images, signs, colours or certain words that stand out when reading. Unbeknown to me, my fertility journey was awakening my spiritual soul, to become a bridge for you and your spirit baby.

So, here’s my final ‘mothering yourself’ tip:

Find a quiet space and turn off all distractions. Once comfortable, close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Open your heart wide and give yourself full permission to open up to your future child and be widely open to receive.

Thank you, mummy-to-be, for taking the time to read this. No matter where you are on your journey, do reach out for support; I would love to support you. But in the meantime, the fertility world can be a harsh place, so please be gentle to yourself.

Heart Hugs,

Joanne – Intuitive Fertility Coach.

We at Fertility Help Hub want you to please remember you are not alone – by sharing stories and feelings, we can show others that they’re not alone in this. If you want to chat, share your story (anonymously or not) or be put in touch with others going through the same disappointment, then please contact us.