In 2019, I decided to share my story through theatre. Theatre has always been a huge part of who I am; influencing who I’ve become more so than my donor-conceived identity. I find it hard to speak plainly but I have always had theatre where I feel much more able to articulate myself. People like to say to me, “It’s mad that if that woman hadn’t donated her eggs you wouldn’t exist,” and yes, they’re right. But that isn’t the point.
Even if, in a parallel universe, the exact combination of cells managed to occur in a “more natural” manner, I wouldn’t be me because I wouldn’t have the same mum.
My family is not defined by biology.
My family is bigger than biology.
Initially coined as a love letter to my mum, the idea of Don’t Ask Don’t Get, Baby, evolved to being a love letter to mothers, donors and fertility specialists – with the help of my best friend and director, Izzy Carney.