3. You shouldn’t have to deal with painful sex in perimenopause
Speaking of dryness, let’s talk about something that often goes unspoken – painful sex in perimenopause. When your vaginal tissues get dryer, they can actually become more delicate and prone to tearing, which can at times make sex feel uncomfortable. And if you’re uncomfortable, you’re not aroused. Which can feel like a bit of a vicious cycle!
The good news is that you don’t have to be stuck with this. Investing in a high-quality, water-based or plant-oil lubricant can work wonders for easing discomfort, and even help you feel more turned on.
We reach for the YES® WB Water-Based Lubricant (that’s the AH! YES WB Water-Based Natural Lubricant for US readers). It’s glycerin and paraben free, organic, and ensures a natural, intensely hydrating, and gentle sexual experience.
There’s also the YES® OB Oil-Based Lubricant (the Soothing Plant Oil Natural Lubricant – AH! YES® OB in the US), too. Simply apply either to your vagina, and your partner’s penis (if they’ve got one) before you get started.
You can even use a water-based and plant-oil lubricant together to achieve the double glide effect discovered by Ruth Hallam Jones. Getting the hydrating benefits of a water-base with the cushion, glide and longevity of a plant-oil. Check-out the YES Double Glide YES® DOUBLE GLIDE (DG) – Lubricant Combo Pack for this!
And talking of which, prioritizing foreplay and taking things slow can help your body adjust and enhance overall comfort, too.
If pain does persist, do book a consult with your healthcare provider, though. They’ll help rule out any underlying health causes, and be able to recommend other treatments like pelvic floor therapy.
4. Sexual wellbeing best practices still apply
Keeping your sexual wellbeing top of mind during perimenopause isn’t something that’s talked about enough, we think.
It may sound obvious, but if you’re switching partners, getting tested and actively protecting against STIs is still really important. And although it’s fairly uncommon, it’s worth remembering that it may be possible to get pregnant naturally during perimenopause – especially if you’re still having the occasional irregular monthly bleed.
Using condoms, or any contraceptive that aligns with your body and lifestyle for at least a year after your final period, is recommended.
Also, although there probably isn’t a direct link with perimenopause, the risk of certain gynaecological cancers does increase through midlife with age.
So, keep an eye out for any unusual symptoms like persistent pelvic pain and any abnormal vaginal bleeding, so you can chat through them with your healthcare provider.