Fertility
IRL surrogacy stories – a whole world of experience to tap into, bank and discuss
Jessie Day, Senior Editor | 5 Nov 2025
When you’re a six-time gestational carrier, individual stories give way to lived experience. Angela has, by her own count during our podcast recording, been pregnant for going on 20 years – with her own children and those of the intended parents she’s carried for.
“What I can say unequivocally is that surrogacy changed my life in a way that is demonstrative in anything and everything that I do on a day-to-day basis,” Angela says, speaking on The Ribbon Box podcast.
“Most importantly, it allowed me to do something that other people dismiss as a skill – and what I mean by that is having babies […] I’m someone that focuses on my mental and physical health during pregnancy, and I understand that is a skill that some intended parents can meet with the need.”
Angela’s story – she’s also founder and CEO of full service agency Alcea Surrogacy based in NYC – is one of many shared through our recent podcast miniseries. Start with episode 1 and listen to all three – it captures what so many surrogates describe: a mix of emotional intensity, deep empathy, and profound human connection.
Whether in NYC or Sacramento – or as far away as London – and through an agency or across small, independent journeys, the stories behind modern surrogacy are layered and real.
How much can we ‘trust’ IRL surrogacy stories?
It’s a valid question, especially after high-profile dramas or celebrity news cycles. While fictional portrayals tend to sensationalise the “surrogacy gone wrong” narrative, the truth is far richer and more nuanced. And no, by the way. The Netflix series The Surrogacy is not based on a true story.
Many, many real surrogacy stories, like those shared by Angela, Christy and Madison – aren’t horror plots. They’re about building families through trust, care and meticulous medical and legal steps designed to protect everyone involved.
In Angela’s case, the intended parents were international, navigating time zones and IVF cycles from afar. They had tried to conceive for years and the moment Angela’s embryo transfer worked, their lives changed.
The real moments behind every “success story”
Christy’s journey – she’s also COO of Alcea Surrogacy – highlights how support networks shape the experience. From early screening to postnatal recovery, her team helped her balance her emotional wellbeing and the practicalities of carrying for another family.
“It was a very fulfilling experience,” she said. “I was a three-time traditional surrogate for the same queer couple, and then carried a final time for a heterosexual couple – that time we did gestational surrogacy. And, that baby is going to be five in August.”
Meanwhile at top-rated Pinnacle Surrogacy, a rock-solid ethos is foundational. Their Instagram reels show the real side of surrogacy: IVF shots lined up on a bathroom counter, progesterone suppositories ready for a 10-day countdown to transfer, and so on.
“Starting PIO shots tonight as well as progesterone suppositories,” one surrogate shared). “Progesterone is vital in preparing the uterus for a successful embryo implantation and maintaining a viable pregnancy in the early stages. Five more sleeps until transfer day! Shoutout to my amazing husband for being there every step of the way.”
Behind the emoji-filled captions are real people, balancing family life, medication schedules and hopes that the embryo they’re carrying becomes someone else’s long-awaited child.
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Parting ways, with deep respect
Every surrogacy story is different. Some intended parents and surrogates remain lifelong friends. Others choose to part ways respectfully after the birth. As Pinnacle’s team explain, “We see all types of intended parent and surrogate relationships after delivery. Some stay in touch with updates and photos, some become Facebook friends and others go on a sibling journey together. Some surrogates even pump for their intended parents.”
In her blog post My Surrogacy Story: One Year On, lawyer, mom and traditional surrogate Sarah Jefford reflects on the typical fears of both parties, when embarking on this journey.
“There may be two certainties with surrogacy – the surrogate worries that she will be abandoned. And the intended parents worry that she’ll keep the baby,” she writes. And speaking of the child she gave birth to, “As for my relationship with Miss D, it took me a while to realise that it is a journey and not a destination … I have found comfort in accepting that I have limited control over it, because I don’t have all the answers.”
From Reddit to celebrity
Across forums like Reddit’s BabyBumps (there’s a fair bit there which focuses on surrogacy stories – rants, nuanced outcomes and all) and r/IVF, women share honest, day-by-day accounts of the surrogacy process – both challenging and beautiful. One post reads:
“I didn’t expect to cry when the parents held their baby for the first time. It was their joy that got me. All the meds, the injections, the appointments – it was worth it.”
These grassroots narratives sit alongside stories from Resolve.org (the National Fertility Association, established in 1974) and agencies like those we’ve spoken to, showing just how varied surrogacy can be, and how much heart is involved.
Sharing their story with RESOLVE, Jenn and Brad Nixon received an infertility diagnosis in 2009 after two years of trying to conceive. In 2012, they did three IUIs and became pregnant on their third try, but they lost the pregnancy at sixteen weeks. Shortly after Jenn’s D&C surgery, doctors discovered she had previously unknown heart issues which had caused her cardiac function to suffer. After multiple failed heart procedures, Jenn and Brad were told it would not be safe for Jenn to carry a pregnancy.
“Once we found out that we needed to pursue other avenues to parenthood, right away we knew we wanted to do gestational surrogacy,” said Jenn.
The Nixons’ gestational carrier is a friend who volunteered to help them have a child – she did not ask for compensation.
“So I [Jenn] try to repay her in any way I can. Just any little thing that makes her feel loved – just anything to say ‘thank you, thank you, thank you for helping make me a mom!’”
Less IRL, for celebrities who’ve opened up about using surrogates from Kim Kardashian and Gabrielle Union to Priyanka Chopra and Lucy Liu, there’s almost always the same emotional through-line: gratitude, awe and an understanding of the women who helped them build their families.
As Vogue explored in Having a Baby with a Surrogate, modern surrogacy represents both scientific progress and the age-old human desire for connection.
When things don’t go as planned
Of course, not every surrogacy story is smooth. There are heartbreaks, from failed transfers and legal setbacks to unexpected medical challenges. Surrogacy horror stories trend online for a reason.
Most often, it comes down to the agency – or, if you’re going DIY with intended parents, the logistics. In well-managed journeys, guided by accredited agencies, surrogates and intended parents can move through the process with clarity and protection. The difference lies in the preparation – choosing the right agency, understanding state laws and building mutual trust.
Read up in our Surrogacy Process: A Step-by-Step Guide to demystify every stage, from medical screening to postpartum care.
Real voices, real connection
On YouTube, videos like “The Journey of a Surrogate Mother” and “Intended Parents Meet Their Baby” capture the emotional crescendo of delivery day. Tears, laughter and that defining moment when the baby’s first cry fills the room, these are moments that stay with people forever.
In Good Morning America’s feature on Surrogate Families, one intended mother summed it up perfectly:
“She carried our child, but she also carried us – through hope, fear and every waiting week.”
That’s the truth behind most surrogacy journeys. No parenting experience is neat and simple – every single one is deeply nuanced, personal and ever-shifting. If anything, surrogacy falls quite neatly into that.
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