TTC at Thanksgiving, Christmas or just about any big holiday can be difficult. It’s front of mind for the team here at FHH, so this week we picked up with Dr Thais Varzoni, mental health counsellor at the amazing Brown Fertility for her tips on navigating a fertility journey, during the holidays. Catch our chat over on Insta, and read on for our list of suggestions to help you keep yourself safe, happy and preoccupied for the season.
Words by Katherine Compton
1 Will you be spending time with family?
While spending time with family can be a joyous occasion, it may be hard to get the message across to everyone that you may not want to discuss fertility or your TTC journey. At large gatherings, we sometimes have to face tough questions like, ‘Why aren’t you married?’, ‘When are you going to have kids?’ and the clearly very helpful reminder that ‘the clock is ticking.’ Thanks, Nan!
Situations like these can be difficult to avoid and to anticipate. It is at this point that you should consider who you will be spending the holidays with. If you are in a relationship, you and your partner could agree to avoid topics of infertility if you feel this will help you both to enjoy the time. if you feel capable of giving everyone the heads up that you don’t want to discuss fertility over the holidays, your wider family may also be accepting of this boundary. However, in some cases, it might not be that simple and you may need to consider whether attending a wider gathering is worth any emotional toll this may take on you.